If you are active on YouTube, Tumblr or Twitter you must have come across the news about the accusation of a couple of Youtubers of abuse. I won’t name these guys because I don’t feel I know enough about them and I certainly do not want to add to the rumours and the stress these accusations have caused. I do want tell you about my reaction when I heard of this because it had quite a big impact on me.
My first reaction upon hearing the news was disgust. I wanted to unsubscribe from the ones I was following and do like the others did, wail about how bad and awful and disgusting these people where. Of course this is not an acceptable reaction. I tried to take a step back and get more information on this matter. You shouldn’t (I shouldn’t have) made a conclusion based on one piece of information and one source. While I read a couple more blog posts on Tumblr about the accusations and the feelings of the victims and other people with a view on the matter it became clear to me that there is more than one side of this story. Some people were blatantly lying and some others were trying to make it ok. There were so many conflicting views that I started to believe everyone was lying. That’s when I stopped reading.
I’d completely lost trust in the people of the internet, some of who I see as friends. Who are you to trust if everyone is trying to get his or hers opinion out in the open for everyone to see? How do you know the person is showing who he or she really is on camera and not abusing someone behind the scenes? And how do you know if these victims are actually abused or just trying to get attention? You will probably never be able to tell. I’m the kind of girl to believe in the good in people. I want to give everyone a second chance. I decided to discard the matter for now. That does not mean I’m ignoring it. I’m not unsubscribing from these YouTubers yet, I’m gathering more information and I’m trying to keep my opinions to myself as long as it’s not clear who has done what. Some accused YouTubers have posted blogs that they are truly sorry and very ashamed. I decided to believe them, give them the benefit of the doubt for now.
I’m still having a hard time with this entire situation especially because it’s still an ongoing business. I’m trying to keep my faith in these people though. I’ve been watching some of them for quite some time and it is therefore quite hard to believe that they aren’t turning out to be those people. If it turns out they have done what they have been accused of, I will most likely unsubscribe. Because abuse is wrong, in all situations and in every condition. All I can do for now, all we can do, is wait for the truth.
I will look different to every YouTuber from now on. I will not put them on a pedestal anymore and it will certainly take a longer time for them to gain my trust. There are still some YouTubers I do trust and am certain of them being good people. But any new YouTuber I’ll follow in the future will have to do with lesser trust on my side. How do you feel about the image on top of this post? Have you noticed these posts on Tumblr? Did you, like me, always trust YouTubers on their word?
Until next time,