Achieving Happiness With Goals

This is a garden I visited in China.

I love having goals. Goals make me do things and make me feel like I’ve achieved things when I complete them. For the last two years I made myself pick a goal for an entire year. Last year my goal was to do fun things whenever I got the opportunity. I’m very happy I decided that was my goal for that year, because not only have I travelled quite a bit because of it, I also met a load of new people, who I consider to be my friends right now. The reason I took on that challenge was because I was not happy with the way my life was going. I was bored out of my mind, stuck in a pattern of living that didn’t make me happy.

I’d decided on that goal in January 2013 and I only took the first step to achieving that goal by June 2013. In June, I went to my first Nerdfighter Gathering. The gathering took place at someone’s home about 1 ½ hours travel from my hometown. I was quite scared to meet all these people I didn’t know and I was really worried they wouldn’t like me or that I wouldn’t like them. Making friends wasn’t something I was particularly good at, so you can imagine my discomfort.

It all turned out great. I had a good time getting to know these new people and I talked to almost all of them. When I left for home at the end of that day people hugged me and waved me goodbye and I told myself I would go to the next Gathering too. From then on I went to a bunch of other gatherings, even hosting one myself. I’ve made so many friends and got to meet so many new people, I can’t even remember what my life was like before I became an active Nerdfighter.

The second step to achieving my goal was going to China in the summer of 2013. I’d always wanted to travel to places far away and since I was finishing High School that year too, I’d figured it be a great excuse to do just that. China was absolutely wonderful. It’s such a different culture and I’ve had an amazing time. Again, I met new people, tasted new foods, saw the Great Wall and other incredible places. Looking back on that vacation, I get really proud of myself for daring to go that far outside of my comfort zone.

Setting a goal for myself has turned my life upside down, in a good way. So I decided to put a new goal for myself again this year. Since I’m much happier now than before it was quite hard to think of a new goal. I eventually went with a much less fun goal, namely getting healthier. I have had diabetes since I was just four years old and I recently discovered I’m not doing as well as I should, so I’m working on that. I’m trying to eat healthier and to move a bit more. I won’t say it’s going as smoothly as I’d liked it to go, but at least I’m trying.

I guess that’s what I like about goals. It makes you try harder and it shows you how things could be different. Do you like goals and do you set them for yourself? Do you like smaller goals or large ones like the ones I set for myself? I’d love to know, so please leave me a comment below.

Until next time,

Vanya

(Image Source – Personal archive ; Video Source – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FyQi79aYfxU )